Most know the fine line between love-making and sex is actually,...love. Becoming a good lover is more than having good carnal relations with someone, but also something much more deeply penetrating, love at one of its most intimate moments. Exploring that intimate moment is beneficial in making it the most special ever and making you a more complete lover as well.
Instructions
1. Pay attention to the likes and (sometimes more important) the dislikes of your partner. Learning likes and dislikes goes further than just in bed. Even when you are intentionally stepping outside of normal bedside manner, don't go outside of what you know for sure someone would accept or is comfortable with (unless they tell you to).
2. Be open to criticism and ask for input. Truth is, you don't know what your partner likes until you ask, or explore and find out yourself. Try not to get upset with the things you may learn as they are only telling you because they trust and love you.
3. Try something new, be spontaneous, and stay away from hum-drum. Now be careful not to send your lover into shock (at least a bad kind) when doing this. Tricky as it may be sometimes to walk this line, you must balance between acceptable and exciting.
4. Set the tone of the session. Preparing is a good way to set the tone, besides lights and music or whatever takes your fancy, you may also do it with body language. Body language can often be interpreted better than spoken word so use your body in a way that entices them, no matter how that may be.
5. Incorporate as many of the five senses as possible. Too many times we focus on touch when a deeply moving experience involves more. Explore and create, as there is a world of possibilities waiting for you to discover with your lover.
6. Think quality and quantity. In most cases of being a good lover, there is never too much of a good thing, but don't make the mistake of changing so much so often that you change what you lover loved about you originally.
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