Whether you're a seasoned dating pro, are recently divorced or have never had a girlfriend in your life, finding a woman to date can be almost as difficult as actually asking her out once you find her. In a society where we rarely leave our futures to chance because we would rather seek out our own destinies, a passive attempt at finding women is one that will likely end in failure. Be active in the shaping of your own future by frequenting the same places that women frequent as well as on the Internet.
Dating Websites
Modern technology and social norms make finding a mate an easier task than it may have been in the not-so-distant past.
The most popular place to meet girls for dating is on the Internet. While meeting a girl online may have been touted as being a last resort just 10 years ago, dating and social networking sites have streamlined the dating process, making online dating popular and successful.
Dating websites provide an outlet that allows people to showcase their best qualities and meet people they probably would not otherwise have had the chance to meet. The most popular websites cater to the dating population as a whole, white other highly trafficked sites appeal to a more definitive crowd: from folks who are single parents to people in the military; those of mixed ethnic origin and even those who have been diagnosed with specific sexually transmitted diseases. Some sites charge monthly membership fees, while others are ad-supported and are free to members.
Museums and Parks
If the Internet isn't your thing, there are still plenty of places around town to meet girls. When looking, remember to do so in venues or activities that you also enjoy yourself. For example, an art museum is often bustling with single art-lovers, but if you yourself don't care for art, it may be difficult to break the ice with a potential mate. While you don't have to be an avid art connoisseur, you should have some interest in the topic, at least enough so you could carry on two or three minutes of viable conversation with a stranger.
If you're a parent (or you can borrow your little niece of nephew for awhile), head to a local park and let the little ones run wild. Kids make for a rock-solid ice breaking conversation, and there are sure to be single moms on-site who would just love to see a cute guy telling little Jimmy to "play nice and share with the other kids". If you're not sure start a conversation with a woman at a park, a simple "which one is yours?" or "how old?" can work wonders.
Singles Events, Festivals and More
Scour the local newspaper and Internet for singles meet-and-greets in your city. From speed dating to singles dances, this is a great way to meet local women from a variety of backgrounds. The best part is that you won't have to keep your eye out for wedding rings, because you will all be there for the same reason.
A great alternative to the bar scene is to attend local festivals and ethnic events. If you have a thing for Italians (or any particular ethnicity), the annual Italian festival in your city could be a gold mine of potential mates.
Other great options? Laundromats, the local gym, political events and libraries, because you can always open a conversation by asking for a recommendation (Which detergent? Flavor of Gatorade? Candidate? Book?) on something related to the locale. You may also want to check out fund-raisers, volunteer opportunities, church groups, travel clubs, alumni events, block parties, seminars, bookstores, coffee shops and special interest groups.
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